Responsibility is a term we use frequently throughout our home, work, and leisure lives. Generally speaking, responsible means to have or accept the duty to deal with something or someone. I would assume no one would disagree that we shouldn’t be responsible, and some would probably agree they could act more responsible. Yet, how do you know how responsible you really are?
I like to measure responsibility on a continuum, because as with any attribute or behavior, we don’t have enough focus and energy to be hitting on all cylinders all of the time. Most people struggle with the responsibility they have, yet haven’t thought about what it means to have a responsibility mindset—taking full responsibility for their life and results. Depending on what the world has thrown into their lives that day, people move back and forth on a responsibility mindset continuum.
However, it’s important to understand what a 10 on a scale of 1 to 10 might look like if you were to achieve a 100% responsibility mindset. You wouldn’t blame, criticize, or even complain. Why? Because when you do, you’re ultimately saying there’s something you know is better that you’re not willing to go after.
Some people incessantly complain about their job but don’t make an effort to even update their resume and look for another one. Spouses complain about their other half but won’t even suggest marriage counseling. Still others complain about their mother-in-law, and yet never take a constructive step to work on the relationship.
When you have a 100% responsibility mindset, you don’t blame, criticize, or complain, because you know you’ve done everything within your control to influence or go get it, and there’s nothing more left for you to do. You then release it as your burden.
You’re probably thinking now of the last thing you criticized or person you blamed. Let the concept sink in. Awareness is the first step in moving towards a 100% responsibility mindset. If you’re unhappy with a relationship or situation, ask yourself, “How am I creating it, promoting it, or allowing it to continue.” Answering this question will give you greater insight into how you might adopt a 100% responsibility mindset, improve your circumstances, and eventually move toward emotional freedom.
About the Author: Sandra Dillon is a professional life coach with an extensive background in leadership and business consulting. She has a passion to help people be the hero of their own life stories. She administers assessments, designs and facilitates workshops, and coaches both individuals and teams. You can learn more about Sandra or engage her as your coach by reaching out to her at firstname.lastname@example.org or by visiting her website at www.shinecrossings.com